Claire has Masters Club God's Little Treasures class on Wednesday nights at our church. Every two weeks she has a new verse to say. She has been doing real well on her verses. Last week, she refused to say her verse. I didn't really think much of it as I had just started back to work and didn't work on the verse with her that Tuesday and Wednesday. And I didn't let J know to work on it with her.
This week, J kept repeating the verse to her over and over. She would not say it to him at all. I got a pack of stickers and told her that if she told Miss Amy or Miss Amber the verse, then I would giver her a sticker. Yeah, I know, bribing her.
We did not harp on the verse all week, just worked with her on it at certain times during her 'school time' during the day.)
On the way to church, I went over the verse with her again. I knew that she knew it as she had told it to me on Monday. J was home with a sick, little Nicholas tonight. She told me she would only say it to Miss Amy. I said that was fine. We started talking about other things. She told me she had fun with Daddy. They built a tent today and played in that. And he read her books. We were getting closer to church so I said her verse again and asked her why she wouldn't say it to Daddy.
She looked at me and said, "You're at work, Mommy."
I said, "Yes, but Daddy is a good Daddy and you can tell him your verse."
She said, "Daddy is a good Daddy. But you're not there."
I told her that Mommy has to work for a while but Daddy loves her and wants to hear her verse too.
She said, "You're at work. He's Daddy and you're Mommy. I 'posed to say it to you."
I once again told her she could say it to Daddy.
She told me she would say it to Miss Amy.
We pulled into the parking lot and she told me she would say her verse to Miss Amy but not to me. I asked why not me anymore. She told me she's mad! Why is she mad? Mommy's at work.
Broke my heart.
I know I need to continue working. We need the income until something comes open for Jason. And he has had a few calls already. And getting out of the house is great. I get to be Stacey and not J's wife or Claire's Mommy or Nicholas' Mommy. I get to have my own identity. But I hate being away from my children all day. And now I know that they really notice and miss me. Part of me is glad they miss me but I didn't realize to what extent until tonight.
Only one more day this week, then I will be with them all day on Friday. Looking forward to it!
This week, J kept repeating the verse to her over and over. She would not say it to him at all. I got a pack of stickers and told her that if she told Miss Amy or Miss Amber the verse, then I would giver her a sticker. Yeah, I know, bribing her.
We did not harp on the verse all week, just worked with her on it at certain times during her 'school time' during the day.)
On the way to church, I went over the verse with her again. I knew that she knew it as she had told it to me on Monday. J was home with a sick, little Nicholas tonight. She told me she would only say it to Miss Amy. I said that was fine. We started talking about other things. She told me she had fun with Daddy. They built a tent today and played in that. And he read her books. We were getting closer to church so I said her verse again and asked her why she wouldn't say it to Daddy.
She looked at me and said, "You're at work, Mommy."
I said, "Yes, but Daddy is a good Daddy and you can tell him your verse."
She said, "Daddy is a good Daddy. But you're not there."
I told her that Mommy has to work for a while but Daddy loves her and wants to hear her verse too.
She said, "You're at work. He's Daddy and you're Mommy. I 'posed to say it to you."
I once again told her she could say it to Daddy.
She told me she would say it to Miss Amy.
We pulled into the parking lot and she told me she would say her verse to Miss Amy but not to me. I asked why not me anymore. She told me she's mad! Why is she mad? Mommy's at work.
Broke my heart.
I know I need to continue working. We need the income until something comes open for Jason. And he has had a few calls already. And getting out of the house is great. I get to be Stacey and not J's wife or Claire's Mommy or Nicholas' Mommy. I get to have my own identity. But I hate being away from my children all day. And now I know that they really notice and miss me. Part of me is glad they miss me but I didn't realize to what extent until tonight.
Only one more day this week, then I will be with them all day on Friday. Looking forward to it!
1 comments:
Oh yes, children are the best at laying guilt trips! But it has only been a week, it will take time for her to adjust. Kids are great at adjusting to new situations. It will just take a little bit of time.
Now Emma tells me she is always bored at home and can't wait to go to school.
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